The last five days have been unusual. It’s been hard to choose a blog topic because there’s so much I could write about. If you follow me on Facebook, you might have seen that my journey from Fort Worth to Mt Vernon, Ohio, to speak at two banquets for a pregnancy resource center was quite an adventure. Rather than flying to Columbus, Ohio, from Atlanta, I drove from Atlanta. Rather than arriving at 5:00 pm Wednesday night, I arrived ten minutes before the banquet began at 6:00 pm Thursday night.
After finally arriving, I enjoyed my time with the people from Knox Starting Point Pregnancy Resource Center. I then drove to Cincinnati for my nephew’s wedding. As I’m writing this blog on Sunday, I’m on my way to Minot, North Dakota, to speak at a Christian school. The adventure continues. My flight is delayed.
I’m not going to blog about all the frustrations. Remembering them won’t do anyone any good. Rather, what did I realize or observe?
I’m more convinced than ever that it’s absolutely necessary to have a quality support system. I hope you have one and if you don’t, I hope that you will take a risk, prioritize the quality of your life, and reach out to a few people. Ask them if they’ll be there for you in a time of need. Develop healthy, vulnerable relationships.
Do your children have a support system? Do they know who to turn to when they have questions? When they’re scared? When they are unsure of themselves? When they have practical needs? Do they know that you’ll be there for them whenever they need you?
Helping your children in this way and empowering them to ask for help may be among the most important things you do. They must know it doesn’t make them weak to need help. They must know it’s okay if they need someone to talk to when they’re scared or confused or frustrated.
I was in line at the Atlanta airport for three hours to try to rebook a flight to Columbus before everything was canceled and I had to rent a car. There were thousands of us stuck there because of the weather situation.
If I had not had the prayer support of many from Facebook and the support of staff, family, and friends I could text and call, I wouldn’t have handled it as well. I was overwhelmed even though I am used to traveling. I was more frustrated than I’ve been in a long time.
If the woman who hired me to speak at the banquets had not been available to me to help me think through options, it also would’ve been a much more challenging time. She stayed awake much longer than she intended to that night, checked into rental cars for me, and the next day stayed on hold with the airline for over an hour trying to find information about my suitcase. She and her staff then problem solved in a most unusual away so that my suitcase arrived in Mount Vernon before I did. They blessed me.
I observed the whole team support me and each other throughout my days there. You can support with simply physical presence. A smile at the right time. A question to help. A pat on the back and other forms of affirmation. Suggestions offered with humility. What else can you think of?
At my nephew’s wedding, there were many examples of support systems. Their wedding coordinator, the photographer and his team, the caterer, the DJ, and others Andy and Steph chose to serve them did their jobs well.
Family and friends who came from near and far were a support system. During the wedding ceremony, the pastor asked if we would support them. At one point in the ceremony, the groomsmen and bridesmaids surrounded Andy and Steph and prayed for them. It was a beautiful picture of the most important support system of all – a vibrant relationship with God and others that empowers us to pray to God on their behalf.
How does all of this make you feel? What are you thinking? Are you satisfied with support systems you have? If so, praise God! If not, I hope you may choose to reach out so you’re ready in a time of need. Ask God to show Himself faithful so you’ll be more encouraged to lean on Him.